Anat from Jerusalem – I went to a Couples’ Workshop. It was recommended to me, but I was sure that I would just sit at the edge of the circle and listen. By the second meeting, I discerned the non-judgmental atmosphere and I realized that the group participants had all come together in order to learn and solve problems they were experiencing. The openness of the group led to real learning. As soon as I felt free to work on my issues in the group, my relationship with my husband began to improve. I learned that my perspective is subjective, and the issues I was having are my own. Now I know that I can choose whether or not I will be offended or hurt, hurl insults in return, or fight with my significant other. This freed something up inside of me, and despite the fact that my husband did not join the workshop – when I made this change, it affected him as well. The tension and fighting has lessened significantly…
Monthly Archives: אוקטובר 2016
Bracha from Holon – The first thing I learned in the Couples’ Workshop is that not everyone has the same perspective. There is no absolute truth. I also came to understand that I am not the authority on what is right and what is not. I was so ashamed to discover how much I had passed judgment my husband, as if my way was the only way. Suddenly, I understood how, for more than 15 years, I had begun each day plotting how I would finally convince my husband that I was right and he was wrong. And for the first time, it dawned upon me that it could be the other way around, at least some of the time.
This simple, yet logical discovery changed my entire perspective! It took the wind out of all of the endless arguments we were having. This quickly improved the relationship between my husband and myself.